How It Works
never sprung on anyone
Your spouse is taught what is coming and gives consent before anything gets locked down. You are equipped before being asked to hold anything. Each stage has its own pace, and any of them can be paused.
Luke 14:28 — “Don't begin until you count the cost.” (NLT)
01
Inventory
Phones, laptops, tablets, gaming consoles, smart TVs, the router itself. The two of you work through the inventory lesson — usually one evening, at your own pace — and write them all down. Nothing is changed yet. Nothing is judged.
You finish the inventory lesson with a written list, an honest picture, and no surprises waiting later.
02
Guided Lockdown
Before any setting changes, both spouses walk through exactly what is coming: what each tool does, what stays in the recovering spouse's name, what the accountability partner will and will not be looking at. The recovering spouse signs off on each item before it is applied.
Then the locks go in. Filtering, screen-time and content restrictions, accountability software set up the way it actually works. Every account stays in your spouse's name; every master password stays in their hands.
03
Cadence
A weekly check-in with a script we provide, a monthly review, a 90-day re-consent where your spouse re-affirms or revises every lock, and a defined exit door if you ever need it.
The inventory is one lesson. From there, you and your spouse decide together what comes next.